Comments on: 8 signs it’s time to change jobs

By: Disappointed in Peoria,IL

Disappointed in Peoria,IL — Sun, 17 May 2009 13:26:07 +0000

I guess it’s time for me to leave my part-time job. So much gossip along with exclusion. I have stayed way too long anyway and not fulfilling my potential. One person rules and they instigate 80% of the gossip. Can you believe this is the person in charge? How sad is that in a Christian institution? Good luck with keeping people when this non-sense goes on everyday. Good luck with the reputation work as well.

By: Catherine, Toronto, Ontario

Catherine, Toronto, Ontario — Wed, 06 May 2009 15:00:08 +0000

I worked at a Veteranarian Hospital part-time and everyone was nice except for one of the doctors. He had a relationship with one of the employees-(turned fiancee) (kennel help, turned manager). Once it went sour, he treated everyone like crap. Because I am sensitive, it felt like he zeroed in on me. I hate when people of authority take advantage of their authority and bully others. That is exactly what he did. I am jobless now, because I quit but I wish I still had that job and the other doctor fired HIM!! Many people have quit over the years because of his inflated attitude. I ask, why do people like him ALWAYS get away with it! He was angry at his fiancee and punched the wall. The result, 1 year in therapy and FULL pay!!! He still continues on, now that he has impregnanted another woman and still acts pompous!!

By: Richard Sullivan, Akron, OH

Richard Sullivan, Akron, OH — Fri, 13 Feb 2009 22:27:05 +0000

after reading this, I’ve learned that in the past, I let myself be mentally destroyed by a verbally abusive and selfish boss/owner who will cost me many years of therapy to come. I wish I would have read this article sooner since it will take me a long time to forget the trauma I have dealt with in the past with that company. Thank you for opening my eyes.

By: Annie

Annie — Fri, 06 Feb 2009 13:16:30 +0000

Julie, I think your other post says it: If you possibly can, get out of there and away from this boss! She’s toxic, and she isn’t going to change.

By: Julie, Saint Paul, MN

Julie, Saint Paul, MN — Fri, 06 Feb 2009 02:53:43 +0000

Dear Annie,

I wish I have read your blog earlier. I’ve been with the same job and same company for a year now. I feel that my boss doesn’t take me too seriously and she doesn’t take my decision into consideration at all when it comes to what’s best for my team and my department. I thought that if I step outside the box and try something new to boost sales up to 100% in begining of January 2009 I might have earned her respect and trust. I have learned it the hard way. It’s a waste of time and it’s best for me to get another job.

By: Julie, Saint Paul, MN

Julie, Saint Paul, MN — Fri, 06 Feb 2009 02:38:36 +0000

Currently I’m in a job that my supervisorconstanly taking advantage of my ideas and work that I accomplished. She never gives me any credit. Sometime if I make a good suggestion she would say no to me but she turns around and send a memo out to everyone, implement my ideas into her policy. She would take a management procedure that I created and change the name on the document into her name. What should I do or should I say anything about it? Give me some suggestions. Thanks.

By: Ann, Toronto, ON

Ann, Toronto, ON — Tue, 02 Sep 2008 01:38:27 +0000

I am currently in a job whre my boss hired a family friend to be my boss. And she is so fake and backstabbing it is awful. But you cannot say anything about her or to her, because of her relationship to my boss. It is awful. Another person was hired because her boyfriend is friends with my boss. They have this clique thing going that is poisoning my work environment and I think it is time to leave. I hate them and their little meetings that exlcude me and always involve a trip to Starbucks. Lately I am being pooped on left right and centre, and it sucks. Funny thing is is that I have a union who is supposed to be able to deal with these situations, but they say there is nothing much to be done because the head bosses have decided who they want to keep. So now I am stuck with bosses who have told me outright that they do not feel I am dynamic or creative enough for the job. Really hard on my self esteem and it is making me physically ill and exhausted due to stress. I have been on sick leave for a week due to physical problems stemming from work. I am beginning to realize that work is not worth my health. I feel no respect and just distain for my bosses, so it is time to leave.

By: Deena, Little Rock, Ar

Deena, Little Rock, Ar — Fri, 02 May 2008 16:46:44 +0000

This is good advice for all. My ex husband would not allow me to work, went back to school and received an AA in Criminal Justice, was going for a BA but because of divorce, could not complete all four years. I remarried a boy from Pine Bluff, Ar and could not find work in the criminal Justice field, became a bank teller for 3 miserable years. I kept trying to get off the teller line and find something within the bank that was more conducive for me and my skills but they only hired Pine Bluff people for those positions, my blood pressure rose sky high and I had a TIA, doc told me to quit or go part time, I went part time and was moved from branch to branch as a floater. I had to quit or spend big money on my health. Looking for an employer who appreciates my dedication and organization, hopefully, not as a bank teller again.

By: Allan,Minneapois,MN

Allan,Minneapois,MN — Fri, 18 Apr 2008 03:41:31 +0000

teaching jobs Most positions begin with the opening of the academic year. So you need to be available as of August 1 or thereabouts. That means you must begin your search no later than the previous November. Arrange to attend regional and national conferences where interviews are held. It will allow you to look much further afield without incurring the initial travel expense.

By: mike, preston, uk

mike, preston, uk — Sat, 01 Mar 2008 13:39:35 +0000

Started a new job, thought it was going to be nice, but everything about the job just really irritates me, makes my blood BOIL. The boss has been talking behind my back how un-happy he is hiring me. Talking to hr people saying he should have never hired me….and yet they want to keep me. Worst job ever.

my opinion of the company I work for, what a waste of time.

By: Lynn, Minneapolis, MN

Lynn, Minneapolis, MN — Tue, 22 Jan 2008 23:43:53 +0000

My boss simply made my skin crawl.

By: OutofHR, SS,MD

OutofHR, SS,MD — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 18:03:25 +0000

For nine months I worked for a person who slept with most of the administrative staff for sport(most of them lived in his house). He once planned and conducted a meeting where he belittled and cursed at our department for hours infront of the executive team as well as visiting employees from another location. He would repremand us if we did not hire illeagal aliens. I had daily and nightly anxiety. What made matters worse, was he totally ignored a dire need for security at the facility. A few months after my office was broken into, I witnessed the severe beating of a patient, by a trespasser. The beating resulted in her death. I went into work one saturday cleaned out my office and never looked back.

By: BAC, Indianapolis, IN

BAC, Indianapolis, IN — Tue, 20 Nov 2007 20:55:22 +0000

I was miserable in my first job out of college. I dreaded going to work, cried daily, and even developed a serious anxiety disorder, complete with panic attacks. I stayed for several awful months, not realizing that no job should make you this unhappy, and that it didn’t mean that I would hate every job in my industry. Taking the risk to find something else is infinitely better that playing scared.

By: Diane,

Diane, — Thu, 15 Nov 2007 18:21:49 +0000

I quit my long-time job with a large company after 15 years. I had transferred into a new department where we were overworked, and I was given so many tasks that were out of my realm of knowledge that I went to work daily with migrains. Finally I said to my husband that I wanted to quit and he was supportive. I waited until my annual review and went in with tears in my eyes because I wasn’t used to “being defeated” but I gave in and left the company. My migrains are gone and I am so happy now!

By: SQ, Pittsburgh, PA

SQ, Pittsburgh, PA — Wed, 14 Nov 2007 18:51:02 +0000

When you take a new job then you find out that you’re the sixth person in the position in five years – don’t plan on sticking around. I lasted nine months. Much happier now!

By: Betty, Chattanooga, TN

Betty, Chattanooga, TN — Mon, 12 Nov 2007 16:02:38 +0000

Ms. Fisher, wow has your article hit right at home. I worked for a company for over 9 years and had to leave after I was transferred to another state. The company is wonderful for the boss at my new location made it so I dreaded coming to work for 2 1/2 years. I finally left my job in search for a new one and hopefully be happy going to work again. After many months of searching and finding very little, I took a job that seemed to be tailor made for me even though the money was less, I figured that as long as I am happy, that would be fine. Well, it was like jumping from the pot to the frying pan. I just turned 50 this year and I feel that my age is keeping me from getting hired. What does a person do after they get to be a certain age about a good job? I saw 60 minutes last night about how companies now have training for employers and management as to how to treat the younger generation with kid gloves because they will loose their staff. Oh My God, I almost can’t believe that employers would sink that low to hire young people when they have older citizens willing to put it all out there for their job but they ignore them because they are older. We as older citizens have a lot to offer and believe me I am as up to date with technology as any youngster. What can we do?

By: Ablatz, chicago, IL

Ablatz, chicago, IL — Sun, 04 Nov 2007 17:27:53 +0000

I worked at a place for over a year. In that year I was given more and more work to do. A lot of it was not what I was hired for, but I consider myself a team player and was more then happy to help out. Plus I figured when my year came I would get a review and would be compensated accordingly- Boy was I wrong! I was angry at myself for thinking that a family business would value their workers more. For over a year I dealt with the owners severe mood swings and verbal abuse when something did not go his way. I dealt with sexual harrasment on a daily basis from other co-workers and customers. The company would lie or at least alter the truth to fit their needs and not what they promised to the public or their customers – but they were VERY sucssesful anyway. I watched people who were considered “above me” get what they wanted because they were family and not because of their work, or lack there of I should say. I always ignore the office politics and just go in to do my job and go home. But after my year came and went without so much as an acknowledge meant I decided to see what was up and listen in in the office gossip (keep in mind that And 1/2 of the people who worked there were related in some way. One girl that worked for “the family” moved up because she slept with Dad (the founder),the General Manager, one of the car detailers, and a couple of the customers (It was a really messed up-borderline disgusting situation!). The more I listened the more revolted I became. I knew that I was in a no win situation and I had to get out as soon as possible. The grass is not always greener but at least it’s not always tainted yellow. Only you have the power to change something you do not like.

By: Darryl, Wilmington DE

Darryl, Wilmington DE — Sun, 28 Oct 2007 01:55:52 +0000

I absolutely despise my job. I sit at a cubicle, answer complaining customer’s, and watch a computer screen all day long. Not to mention, my management has now made it a requirement to do the job of our sales department without the increase in commission compensation. This article has helped me realize that I’m not acting irresponsibly. I miss work because of the anxiety attacks that overwhelm me just by getting dressed in the mornings. Thank you for the 8 signs. I must act now before I destroy my working repitation.

By: Dave, Charlotte, NC

Dave, Charlotte, NC — Tue, 23 Oct 2007 19:23:43 +0000

I just found this web page and haven’t read down far yet but have to make a comment.In response to “Jamie” and Unhappy employees I wouldn’t bet on anything. I just quit from a job here in NC. I’m from NY so that means I’m a yankee which true southern people hate with a passion. I’ve had people tell me they would rather see illegal mexicans here than yankees. On my interview my soon to be boss told me he needed to hire me for the skilled position to “light a fire” under there butts because they sat around all the time. I took the job and soon after started getting hit with nuts, metal pins and all kinds of stuff. Later they started shooting a air nail gun at me. Not to mention harassment of all kind. Eventually myself and another employee ended up talking with a VP and the guys got 3 days off and the only thing that stopped was the throwing of things. After trying to contact numerous lawyers who never return your call after interviewing on the phone, and after trying to reach numerous state run agency’s on what employee rights are, and ending up at the state capital in Raleigh,NC and hearing the guy tell me it’s an “At will” state and “I would just get another job if I was you” I finally quit! The company president is golfing buddy’s with the guys and knows of everything. The VP later told me his hands were tied because the president didn’t want to take it farther. I’ve been slugged with a board as I walked by trying to be adult about everything and ignoring it but it would have never stopped. There are no harassment laws here or anyone who is ambitious enough to do anything including the company when I tell them people are driving by my house. Even with proof don’t hold your breathe. Hostile work environments are still around and nothing is being done at some places.

By: T. Hodges, Holly Hill, SC

T. Hodges, Holly Hill, SC — Tue, 23 Oct 2007 17:42:36 +0000

I knew it was time to leave when I found that all my motivation for my work, which I loved doing, was gone. Another sign was I didn’t want and found it difficult to get up every morning knowing I had to go to that job. I was late every day and didn’t care. None of these things fit the person I am, so I knew I had to leave